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What is another way to “Choose the Situation/Setting” that will lead to success?
Problem: An 8-year-old girl has been bullying children on the bus, and the standard warnings and conversations with this student have not...
- Aug 3, 2021
- 1 min
Strategies for Self-Control - Choose the setting!
Several blogs ago, I mentioned the Process Model of Self-Control. Essentially, there are four steps to self-control, and we can intervene...
- Jul 26, 2021
- 1 min
The foundations of self-control - Plan Ahead
What’s another way to help kids Plan Ahead so that they can use better self-control? Advance Notice is another great strategy! Say a...
- Jul 19, 2021
- 1 min
The foundations of self-control -Self Talk
Last week we learned about Self-Talk, which is the first foundational skill for self-control. The second foundational skill is Planning...
- Jul 12, 2021
- 2 min
The foundations of self-control -Self Talk
What do you do with a child who is impulsive and has difficulty with one or more of the following? Not paying attention in class Touching...
- Jul 5, 2021
- 1 min
The real question is... How do we help kids develop self-control?
In the last two blogs, we posted sample social behavioral stories to help kids learn the social and behavioral skills necessary for camp....
- Jun 28, 2021
- 2 min
How can I have a great summer?
My name is Miriam. I am 9 years old. I am going to Camp Dina this summer. This is the first time I am going to camp. I would like to have...
- Jun 21, 2021
- 2 min
How to NOT get expelled from camp this summer!
Here's a Red and Green social behavior story to help kids who have a history of misbehaving in camp and would like to continue enjoying...
- Jun 7, 2021
- 1 min
14 Ideas for initiating "play."
Last week, we posted the social skills concept of "Initiating vs. Waiting for others" and included a sample Red and Green picture that...
- May 31, 2021
- 1 min
Not everyone is born with the skill and courage to initiate conversations and friendships.
The summer is almost here, and it is a time that children and teens (and us adults ;) ) have the opportunity to meet new people, make new...
- May 24, 2021
- 1 min
What to do when a child suddenly displays a marked change in behavior
When a child suddenly displays a marked change in behavior, don't discipline or create a behavior plan immediately. Instead, find out...
- May 11, 2021
- 1 min
Why teach social skills to children with behavioral problems?
Why is it so important to address behavioral problems in children when they're still young? Can't we just be patient and let them grow...
- May 3, 2021
- 2 min
Are you wrapping up your work with a student?
It is the time of year when we review the progress of our students and decide which kids are ready to move on and be on their own. How...
- Apr 26, 2021
- 2 min
It's hard to believe that Marilyn Nehls is no longer with us...
Hi my Community of Friends, Families, and Colleagues, Today I got a shocking and deeply saddening call. Truth is, every couple of years...
- Apr 19, 2021
- 2 min
I know it sounds CRAZY, but it works!
Happy Monday! Perhaps you've seen my favorite way to teach problem-solving skills. It has four simple steps: 4 Steps to Teach Problem...
- Apr 11, 2021
- 2 min
A fun and creative way to teach problem-solving skills! Miriam Schiff shows us how...
My name is Miriam Schiff, CCC/SLP, MA, MS Ed, and I’m a longtime graduate of Dr. Devora Samet’s Red and Green Social Skills Training...
- Mar 22, 2021
- 1 min
Do you recognize eustress in your life???
Yes, we all know about DISTRESS, but are you familiar with EUSTRESS??? Eustress is defined as moderate or normal stress that comes from...
- Mar 15, 2021
- 1 min
My feelings don't make any sense... or maybe they do???
Yes, Pesach is coming... In fact, it's less than two weeks away. Ouch, did that bring up lots of feelings??? We've established that...
- Mar 8, 2021
- 2 min
When your emotions are exploding... then what???
How often has a kid told you, "Why talk about my feelings if nothing is gonna change?" How often have we said the same thing at some...
- Mar 1, 2021
- 2 min
The last thing you should ever do when a child is jealous!
Emotion regulation or knowing how to deal with one's emotions in a calm or socially skillful manner, is a hot topic these days. So many...
- Feb 22, 2021
- 2 min
Stop being so stubborn and just call that kid!!!!
I used to think that if a kid didn't listen to me right away, the only reason was that they were simply being stubborn and I was going to...
- Feb 15, 2021
- 1 min
How can we help kids who don't feel lovable?
In the last blog post, I cited several possibilities that might contribute to kids having trouble making or keeping friends. I'd like to...
- Feb 7, 2021
- 1 min
How can we help kids who don't have friends?
There are a number of angles that need to be looked at when kids don't have friends. Here are just a few of the possibilities: Some kids...
- Jan 3, 2021
- 1 min
2021: A Year of Social Connection and Social Closeness
Can’t believe that 2020 is finally over! What a year! May the need for physical distancing end very soon, and may social closeness and...
- Dec 7, 2020
- 2 min
Are Frum Kids Immune to Anxiety Despite COVID? Or Are We Afraid To Open The Can of Worms?
In the secular world, there is constant talk in the media about an inundation of anxiety being experienced by children, teens, and adults...
- Nov 23, 2020
- 2 min
My Child Will Grow Out Of It... Five Signs They Likely Will
Yes, COVID has been quite stressful for most of our children and perhaps even traumatic for some of them. But that doesn't mean that they...
- Sep 2, 2019
- 2 min
Bedtime!
Bedtime Strategies: Create Rules - Each child should have a reasonable bedtime that is consistently adhered to… Sample bedtimes: 3-4 year...
- Sep 2, 2019
- 2 min
"Leah" - A Case Study Part Two: by Chavi Hornig, M.S.Untitled
I met with Leah for half an hour in early March, after having spoken to her mother at length. I wanted to get to know her a little, and...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
WHY DO SOME CHILDREN FIGHT MORE THAN OTHERS?
Why do some children fight more than others? Why is it that some kids seem to work out their little squabbles, yet others don’t resolve...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
So which behaviors do I address first?
When parents and educators discover that behaviors can be broken down into a list of reds and greens, one of the most-often asked...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
When Children Compare?
When your child says, “It’s not fair; you gave him more orange juice than me,” have you tried to even the score? Did you give him some...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
To Repeat or Not to Repeat?
Do you find yourself repeating questions before you finally get an answer? Do you sometimes wonder if your child or student suffers from...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
Table Manners
Below is a list of eating manners organized as reds and greens. Use the list as a guide for figuring out precisely which eating habits...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
How To Do Special Mommy Time
Call the special time, “Special time with mommy” or “Special daddy time." Call it anything you wish, but give the "time" a name. It is...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
Positive Practice
If you read the article on Immediate Re-practice, you might recall that Judy had a tendency to double-dip, yet warnings not to do it...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
How do I teach my child to have an organized knapsack?
If your child needs to learn how to have an organized knapsack, the following are some of the skills he may need to learn. Typically,...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
My child is so distracted especially when he has to find the right page in a book...
I've had the wonderful privilege and opportunity to observe many, many, children in their classrooms countless times. I've also noticed...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 3 min
"Leah" - A Case Study Part One: by Chavi Hornig, M.S.
"Leah" is a second grader in Bnos Sarah. Her family moved to America from Israel at the beginning of the 2008-2009 school year. The...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
How to Organize a Desk
Miriam, a junior-high student, helped me figure out all the steps that would need to be taken to organize her desk. Here is what we came...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
HOW DO I PRAISE A CHILD WHO DOES NOTHING PRAISE-WORTHY?
When your child is doing all kinds of red behaviors all day, it is sometimes difficult to find something nice to say. It is even more...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
Have you tried Immediate Re-practice? Does your child still not use self-control?
If you read the article on Immediate Re-practice, you might recall that Judy had a tendency to double-dip, yet warnings not to do it...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
Immediate Re-practice
I visited a friend several weeks ago, and her ten-year old Judy was double-dipping on some tomato dip on the table. Judy took a piece of...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
Do you find yourself frequently saying, "Next time don't do it" but there's always a next time?
I visited a friend several weeks ago, and her ten-year old Judy was double-dipping on some tomato dip on the table. Judy took a piece of...
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
Do I need to bang on a door continuously?
Credit: The technique of the Behavior Story is based on Carol Gray's Social Stories.
- Aug 30, 2019
- 2 min
- Aug 30, 2019
- 1 min
A Rhyme, About Listening the First Time!
The answer, my dear is yes, yes, yes! Not listening right away gets you into a mess! Accepting authority is an important skill, It’s...
- Aug 29, 2019
- 1 min
Meet Bat Goggles
Miriam Schiff, who has been successfully using the Red & Green Learning system for many years, shared with us this great fool-proof...
- Aug 29, 2019
- 1 min
Tips to Get You Through The Day
How To Do Time-Out Effectively! Many parents and professionals use ‘time-outs/time-away-from-fun’ when necessary. However, the difference...
- Aug 29, 2019
- 1 min
The Conversation Sandwich
One of my colleagues, Shifra Miriam Erlich, has been using a very creative way to help kids pull together the different components of a...
- Aug 29, 2019
- 2 min
Strategies To Teach Missing Communication Skills
In the previous blog, we listed the 18 Means of Communication. Did you have an opportunity to monitor your own or someone else’s...