My name is Miriam Schiff, CCC/SLP, MA, MS Ed, and I’m a longtime graduate of Dr. Devora Samet’s Red and Green Social Skills Training Course. I’d like to share a fun way I recently worked on problem-solving skills with a third grade student.
We randomly went through magazine pictures and we tried to scout out potential “problems.” We found a picture of a boy doing his work with a water bottle sitting on the corner of his desk. We discussed the obvious problem of his work getting ruined if the water bottle spilled. I was quick to validate that it would indeed be a bummer to have one's work get ruined.
We then rated the problem using a rating scale of FIVE being catastrophic and ONE being manageable (from The Zones of Regulation by Leah M. Kuypers).
Next, we made our trusty RED and GREEN chart.
I drew a scenario of a kid sitting at his desk with a wet piece of paper (self-disclosure: I’m a terrible artist but this has never been a problem.)
I made the kid look like he was having a full blown meltdown by drawing huge tears near his eyes.
I have NO MERCY with the thought bubbles here. I let him know that his friends and Morah will think he’s weird if he loses it.
I then drew a boy on the green side with the thought bubble stating, “I’ll work it out.”
I made a huge smiley face on the Morah and his friends.
We discussed how no third grader has the patience to hear a kid cry for no reason.
4. We then completed a Social Behavior Map (by Michelle Garcia Winner). The chart is divided into four columns.
The first one is titled "Expected Behaviors.” He proudly wrote, “Finding a solution.”
For the second column that is titled, “How others FEEL,” he wrote “Awesome.”
In the third column, “How they REACT,” he gave me the generic answer “Good,” but we expanded on that.
For the final column, “How YOU FEEL about yourself,” he colored a smiley face.
And I was thrilled!!